Yale Guen Mar, visit Tony Chee Mar's grave. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

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Yale Guen Mar, recall the 1963 Pontiac that your dad Tony Chee Mar bought for you when you were 25. He also let you have a room in his house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ long into your adulthood.

“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”

- Deuteronomy 5:16

Yale Guen Mar, are you still mad with your mother, Kim Hi Wong?

Isn't that grossly unfair?

There are bad sons (like Yale Guen Mar) but bad mother is an oxymoron.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topicsoc.culture.china/h4EEjkYssaw

And that is certainly not the fault of your mother, Kim Hi Wong.

She was the worst of the worse.

Get over your irrational grudges.

Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were great parents. Ellen, Donald and Eugene grew up to be accomplished citizens. If you didn't it was your own character flaws that came in the way. Don't blame them, blame yourself for your pitiable life.

Remember everything you owe Tony Chee Mar. You met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old FOB in San Francisco - you had arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.

Remember what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey." Wonder-struck, you asked him, "What is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"

Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.

* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.

* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.

* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.

* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.

* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.

* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.

* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.

* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.

And, yes, Tony Chee Mar did punish you often when you were growing up , but that was because he had to. He hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.

Unfortunately, you were incorrigible. You just couldn't stay on the straight and narrow. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China of finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made sure that you were never more than the miserable self you are right now.

Yale Guen Mar, you are still blinded by rage more than a dozen years after Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong passed away.

You are angry that you got punished by Kim Hi Wong who was doing all she could to keep you in the straight and narrow but to no avail.

It seems you are still sore that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.

You shouldn't bear grudge against Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head either.

Tony Chee Mar wanted to be a thoughtful father for an 11-year old boy he was seeing for the first time in his life. Tony had declared himself to be your father so that you could find refuge in USA after the imposition of CCP dictatorship in Beijing.

Yale Guen Mar, your "father" didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.

That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.

But don't be an ingrate. Tony Chee Mar did his best to bring you up properly. You owe him immense debt. The least you can do is to visit Tony Chee Mar's grave now and then. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

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Yale Guen Mar, you have taken sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

Why can't you appreciate the achievements of your brothers Donald and Eugene who are successful as medical doctors ? Why are you so jealous of them?

Yale Guen Mar, grow up. Accept your mediocrity and learn to appreciate other people's achievments.

Heck, you can't even stand the fact that your brothers Donald and Eugene did well as medical doctors. This is taking sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/_fwiR-JrgGs

There was a Chinese family, both husband and wife graduated from UC-Davis medical school. At 4 P.M. the husband and children said they had enough. The wife/mother said: "One more time", and went up the slope on a ski-lift. The husband and children waited and waited until 5 P.M. before they called the operator to look for her. They never found her.
The next summer, two hunters found her handbag, IDs, and human bones on the other side of the slope. She was probably the only one up the hill, and ski off the wrong side of the hill!!!

Look at you, Yale Guen Mar. You don't even have a college degree or even a wife. And you are claiming that you didn't go to college because you didn't want to die in a skiing accident.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/HBlDkY3wFUU

You don't need high IQ to be a doctor, just good grades in medical school.
My brothers are medical doctors.
My son is a medical doctor.
They are highly respected people.

But, Yale Guen Mar, you are not respected even inside the Mar clan. They know you for the vindictive scum that you are.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/8Fv-iHWD78k

Dr. Eugene Yale Mar has been a quadriplegic since his ski accident, and I think he has even stopped practicing medicine, and may have been under state care. His wife dorvorced him. His son lives in the Phoenix area.

So now you bear ill-will toward your kid brother Eugene because he is a medical doctor and because refuses to be your friend on Facebook?

Grow up Yale Guen Mar.

And, yes, Eugene refuses to have you as his friend on Facebook because he is wary of your intentions. You have done nothing to show that you have the welfare of your kid brother Eugene in your heart.

If Dr. Eugene Yale Mar joined his older siblings Ellen and Donald to get rid of your gun collection and album of photos of your favorite pigs, it is to protect you from yourself.

But you still haven't forgiven your kid brother for that !! How low can you get ?

Yale Guen Mar (who posts under the fake name of Resty Wyse) do you understand why Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to do what they did.

Because of your unstable temperament, you were a menace not just to yourself and your relatives but even to your neighbors.

Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to get rid of your gun collection and album of photos of your favorite pigs from the room in your parents' home on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ. They were only trying to save you from yourself.

You are a loser, Yale Guen Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, you still have not been able to forgive Ellen, Donald and Eugene because they got rid of your gun collection and the album of photos of your favorite pigs from your room in your parents' house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ. And also because they graduated from college and are success stories in their chosen professions.

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Yale Guen Mar (posting under the fake name of Resty Wyse), why don't you make posts on the newsgroup telling us about your "great rivalry" with cousin Homer?

Even as a child you would run crying to your mother Kim Hi Wong and aunt Susan Suey Oy Wong complaining about Homer.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/soQuovNAi_g
Yale Guen Mar (posting under the fake name of Resty Wyse), stop bad-mouthing your esteemed cousin Col Homer Yale Mar. Everyone in the Mar clan respects him. No one respects you.

The highest rank he got was captain in the army.
His national guard rank was lieutenant colonel he joined so he can get his military pension. He "walk-walk-eat" throughout his life.

That's not quite what you posted nearly 5 years ago in one of your weaker moments when you uncharacteristically let the truth overwhelm you:

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/Ro61CI-EilI

My father's identical twin used to own the"Junction City Cafe", and
all my cousins, except the oldest were born and grew up in Junction
City. They all graduated from Kansas State University in Manhatten,
KS. My oldest cousin served in the Vietnam War and remained with the
Army and retired with the rank of colonel.

If anyone was fat all his life it was Yale Guen Mar.

My high school weight was 137. Today, I weigh 138 - 139.

That is yet another lie.

Here's Yale Guen Mar's photo when he was trimmer than he is today:

https://picasaweb.google.com/112462267608865651931/ScrapbookPhotos#

You will be absolutely right if you guessed the fat slob in that photo to be our "137 lb" slim and trim Yale Guen Mar. Even in his trimmer state he seems far closer to 200 lb than to 137 lb.

You are so jealous of Homer that you have now stooped to posting that Homer and Cynthia (Homer's beautiful wife) are overweight !!!

Jealous of a "walk-walk-eat" person all through his life? You gotta be joking. No one can be jealous of a fat-slop??? If you think she's beautiful, I can see why you like pigs.

An arny colonel who served in Vietnam is anything but a "walk-walk-eat" person which describes you accurately. When was the last time you had a proper job? You have been living off welfare checks from Uncle Sam which you try to supplement with 50 cents per approved post from Uncle Chang.

BTW, do you realize that you have strayed on the wrong side of the law by not reporting your income from the CCP dictatorship in Beijing and by not registering yourself as a lobbyist for PRC?

You might want to be on your best behavior the next time you meet your cousin Lawrence Yale Mar of San Mateo, CA. Cousin Larry is an authority on tax laws and regulations. He can advise you on the least painful way for you to come clean with the IRS and the USA. Consult him and get his advise to avoid time behind locked bars in a penitentiary. Beware that if you get jailed, you might never come out alive for there is every chance that you'll die on the shower floor of the penitentiary as you are sodomized by fellow inmates.

https://picasaweb.google.com/112462267608865651931/ScrapbookPhotos#
Pray, tell us who is the overweight guy in these photos? Here's a hint to help you - it is neither Homer nor Cynthia.

Yeah, I was wearing my son's sweatshirt, a UCLA sweat. He's a bigger man than I am or I was. It was a thick heavy sweat, good for the cold weather.

Really? Brenton is a small man more likely to be 137 lb. Just look at the photo:

https://picasaweb.google.com/112462267608865651931/ScrapbookPhotos#

Brenton is the young gentleman at your back.

Why would Brenton's sweatshirt make you look that fat? A 200 lb pig like you can never get into Brenton's sweatshirt.

Was Homer a bully?

His mother said so, and all his brothers and sister called him a bully. It came out from his own mother's mouth. You see, we have a cousin living in Santa Clara. She's the "message-relayer".

Who is this "message-relayer" that you are now identifying as a cousin? She can't be a real person. You are so infamous in the Mar clan that no member would bother to relay messages to you.

Didn't you brag that Homer would always get out of your father's house before you came back because he was afraid that you would punch him?

So how is he the bully?

Homer was very forbearing. He never hit you till you turned really obnoxious. And then you would run crying to your mom Kim Hi Wong and even to your aunt Susan Suey Oy Wong. Admire cousin Homer for his patience instead of abusing him as a bully.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/Kvwdc6agpRg

I boosted Homer's image up in the beginning as he is my cousin. He came to our house and talked to Donald and my father, but left before I came back. He knew I would punch him in the face if I saw him.

So Homer avoided you because you would punch him in the face if you saw him?

And yet you think he is the bully !!

Get over your jealousy. Cease making a fool of yourself with such contradictory claims.

He had licked you often, but only because you were ceaselessly nasty to him. But Homer had more often than not let you off because after all you were a cousin.

Yale Guen Mar, if you are man enough, you should go to Duncanville and ask Homer and Cynthia for forgiveness. They are nice people - very forgiving. They will forgive you if you repent sincerely.

Of course not. It is you who fought like dogs and cats even though you always got beaten up.

By a fat-slop??? That's really funny!!!

"fat-slop" ? Yale Guen Mar, your English will never be anything but sloppy unless you pay attention when grandson Singh tutors you.

And at 200 lbs, you are the crowned fat-slob in the Mar clan.

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Take them, Satish. I want no part of them!!!

Yale Guen Mar, were you unhappy when Tony Chee Mar gifted you a 1963 Pontiac when you were 25 ? He did it in the hope that such generosity will give you the incentive to turn over a new leaf.

But Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong learnt to their eternal regret that while you can drag a mule to a well, you cannot make it drink from it.

Ellen Heath, Donald Yale Mar and Eugene Yale Mar have always held the family to be dear and it has made them happy.

You harm no one but yourself when you push the family away.

Yale Guen Mar, you have taken sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

Why can't you appreciate the achievements of your brothers Donald and Eugene who are successful as medical doctors ? Why are you so jealous of them?

Yale Guen Mar, grow up. Accept your mediocrity and learn to appreciate other people's achievments.

Heck, you can't even stand the fact that your brothers Donald and Eugene did well as medical doctors. This is taking sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/_fwiR-JrgGs

There was a Chinese family, both husband and wife graduated from UC-Davis medical school. At 4 P.M. the husband and children said they had enough. The wife/mother said: "One more time", and went up the slope on a ski-lift. The husband and children waited and waited until 5 P.M. before they called the operator to look for her. They never found her.
The next summer, two hunters found her handbag, IDs, and human bones on the other side of the slope. She was probably the only one up the hill, and ski off the wrong side of the hill!!!

Look at you, Yale Guen Mar. You don't even have a college degree or even a wife. And you are claiming that you didn't go to college because you didn't want to die in a skiing accident.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/HBlDkY3wFUU

You don't need high IQ to be a doctor, just good grades in medical school.
My brothers are medical doctors.
My son is a medical doctor.
They are highly respected people.

But, Yale Guen Mar, you are not respected even inside the Mar clan. They know you for the vindictive scum that you are.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/8Fv-iHWD78k

Dr. Eugene Yale Mar has been a quadriplegic since his ski accident, and I think he has even stopped practicing medicine, and may have been under state care. His wife dorvorced him. His son lives in the Phoenix area.

So now you bear ill-will toward your kid brother Eugene because he is a medical doctor and because refuses to be your friend on Facebook?

Grow up Yale Guen Mar.

And, yes, Eugene refuses to have you as his friend on Facebook because he is wary of your intentions. You have done nothing to show that you have the welfare of your kid brother Eugene in your heart.

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Yale Guen Mar, you grew up in China from 1938 to 1949.

As a 11 year old boy, you fled to USA to escape the Communit take over in China.

You landed asa 11 year old boy in Safford, AZ.

So you had trhe benefit of growing up in both China and in USA.

But nothing did you any good beccause of your inherent character flaws.

Yale Guen Mar, recall how you ran away from home as a teenager. You ended in Chicago where you tried to enroll as a Bunny Boy with Playboy.

Your mother, Kim Hi Wong, had filed a missing person report with the police. The police found you just in time because you might have got murdered by the unsavory characters you had started mixing with to earn money as a boy prostitute.

When you cam back home, your sister Ellen (who was 11 years younger than you) cried and cried and made you swear never to run away from home again.

But then you misused your stay with your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar (who posts under the fake name of Resty Wyse) do you understand why Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to do what they did.

Because of your unstable temperament, you were a menace not just to yourself and your relatives but even to your neighbors.

Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to get rid of your gun collection and album of photos of your favorite pigs from the room in your parents' home on 914 10th Street in Phoenix, AZ. They were only trying to save you from yourself.

Yale Guen Mar, you still have not been able to forgive Ellen, Donald and Eugene because they got rid of your gun collection and the album of photos of your favorite pigs from your room in your parents' house on 914 10th Street in Phoenix, AZ.

Yale Guen Mar, 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ should have been like your home. Instead you chose to make it a storage place for your contrabands.


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I am very much interested in hearing from Chinese-Americans within the
United States on how their aged parents/grandparents were faring in
their sunset years. It was ironic for me growing up in a small town,
living in California most of my adult life about a thousand miles from
"home". As each of us gets older and educated, we leave "home" only to
come "home" for visit once or twice a year. My sibblings live in
Tucson about 125 miles away leaving my parents alone at "home". To me,
"home" was, is and will always be 914 10th St. and I never take any of
my things from "home" to California.
Then my father got sick and checked into the hospital. My brother in
Tucson returned "home" and talked to the doctor, who said my father may
be in hospital for about a week. Since my mother can not speak English
and alone at home, he decided to transfer my father to Tucson Medical
Center where he works and move my mother to a retirement home in
Tucson. The house was sold. "Home" is no more. All my college year
photos were gone, my short-wave radio, my gun collection, everything in
my bedroom, including the photos of my favorite pigs, were thrown away
or given away without telling me.
My father recovered and moved into the retirement home with my mother,
each taken up a room with a cost of $1,200/month each for a total of
$2,400. With no outside activities and eat and sleep, my father died
in 15 months later. My mother died two years later after my father. I
believe my mother died of loneliness and neglect. I have 3 sibblings
living in Tucson, not one would visit and talk to my mother often
enough to care.

Yale Guen Mar, can't you ever get over the loss of your gun collection, photos of your favorite pigs and your short-wave radio? Donald and Eugene were only trying to protect you from yourself.

Yale Guen Mar, you are being grossly unfair to your brothers Eugene Yale Mar and Donald Yale Mar. They were achievers. The only reason they got rid of your gun collection, short-wave radio and the photos of your favorite pigs was to save you from yourself.

Quit holding grudges against Donald and Eugene, Get their help to cope with your problems.

Funeral rites for an elderly person follow the prescribed form and convey relevant respect: rites befitting the person's status, age etc. are performed even if this means the family of the deceased must go into debt to pay for them.

Ben Shee Mar and Susan Suye Oy Wong were fortunate to be honored at their burial by their children and grandchildren. They lie buried side by side in Duncanville, Texas.

Nephew Yale Guen Mar was not welcome at the funerals by the Mar clan, and for understandable reasons.

But then Yale Guen Mar wasn't welcome at the funerals of his parents Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong either. No one wanted him at the funerals.

At Qingming Festival every year, Homer Yale Mar and his siblings pay respect to their parents Ben Shee Mar and Susan Suey Oy Wong, and all relatives and ancestors who have passed away. They spend time tidying up the graves and tombstones of Ben Shee Mar and Susan Suey Oy Wong. They offer food, flowers and paper money to their ancestors.

In stark contrast, Yale Guen Mar spends time sulking about times when he got thrashed by his father Tony Chee Mar and mother Kim Hi Wong for misbehavior.

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Yale Guen Mar, when you were a teenager in Safford, AZ, Dr. Jenkins wanted you committed to a lunatic asylum for treatment of your mental disorders.

Yale Guen Mar, forget the pigs. Think Dr. Long Dong instead. You have had a relapse.

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/lha9vZtK-24

hello dr.Dong, .... you seemed to have taken good care of the old
crack Resty the Rusty , since I didnt hear any single noise comes from him
for quite some times now
congrats

Stories of Yale Guen Mar's recovery has proved to be greatly exaggerated. He is still as cranky as ever.

Oh, don’t mentioned. We take care of everybody that needs help. Our
treatment service has improved his needs, and we are happy to provide them
free of charge to him, if need to.
As most posters know, Resty has been a pain in the butt to posters, in
social culture china, who had subjected themselves to his bullying and
abuses.
And, now we have cleaned up his pathetic behavior, that now makes him see
the light of perspective not from himself only, but also makes him see the
perspective from others, too.

Yale Guen Mar has most certainly relapsed. He needs to visit Dr. Long Dong once again.

They are worse than me.
The headstone had a problem since the very beginning.
They wouldn't even get the stone cutter to correct it.

Yale Guen Mar, it is your head that needs repair.

There was nothing wrong with the headstone. You tried to vandalize it and got caught and beaten up by Donald.

Satishkumar C. Madhavan, since you think so highly of my family, you can have them. I want no part of them, especially Ben's family. I am ashamed of ALL of them, all worthless.

Is it any surprise that your doctor in Safford, AZ (Dr. Jenkins) wanted you committed to a mental institution even when you were in your teens.

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Yale Guen Mar, the challenge before you is to earn forgiveness from your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene and from your cousins Homer, Gini, Clarence and Larry.

The first step toward redemption will occur when you start joining family get-togetehers for the Quing Mingh Festival, the Double Nine Festuval and the Hungry Ghost Festival.

Yale Guen Mar, too bad you didn't get to see Brenton, Valerie and Kimberly on Father's Day.

As for Carlton, I understand his urge to be with his biological father rather than with you.

Yale Guen Mar, it is time to think back about your "dad" Tony Chee Mar with gratitude.

Tony Chee Mar saw you for the first time only in 1949 when you sailed into San Francisco from Hong Kong as an 11 year lod boy.

Yale Guen Mar, you owe everything to your "dad" Tony Chee Mar.

* He signed papers in 1949 (when you were 11) to declare that you are his son
so that you could get refuge in USA after escaping from China under CCP dictatorship.

* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and math to help you out in your school work.

* He taught you all about rational numbers and about irrational numbers.

* He gave you a job at his cafe even though you did little useful work.

* Most of all he gave you a room in his house on 914 10th Street in
Safford, AZ which you held on to even into your adulthood.

* And when you were 25, he gifted you a 1963 Pontiac in the hope
that you will turn over a new leaf.

But you are an ingrate. You have been damning the Mar clan in general and Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong in particular as if they were your enemies.

Yale Guen Mar, do you still cry at bed time because Ellen, Donald and Eugene got rid of your gun collection, short wave radio and your semen-stained album of pigs from your room at your parents' house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ?

But they were only trying to protect you from yourself. They were also trying to protect your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar from you.

Get over your grudges.

Join Ellen, Donald and Eugene at Lot 49 of East Palm Cemetery in Tucson, AZ on Hungry Ghost Festival (Saturday, August 25, 2018) to kowtow to the noble souls of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar who did so much for you in their lifetime.

Yale Guen Mar, if you are alive, then act alive.

For once in your lifetime, go and visit the graves of your parents Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.

* Kowtow in front of their graves at East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) in Tucson, AZ.

* You'll get to meet many of your relatives.

* Your brothers and sisters will be there. Join Ellen, Donald and Eugene at the grave site.

* Polish the headstone.

* Sweep the graves.

* Offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers.

* Burn incense.

* Wear a willow wreath on your head.

* Go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca.

* In short, be a man and act to show that you live
by honoring your dead ancestors at Hungry Ghost Festival
on Saturday, August 25, 2018.

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Yale Guen Mar, if you are alive, then act alive.

For once in your lifetime, go and visit the graves of your parents Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.

Kowtow in front of their graves at East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) in Tucson, AZ.

You'll get to meet many of your relatives.

Your brothers and sisters will e there. Join Ellen, Donald and Eugene at the grave site.

* Polish the headstone.

* Sweep the graves.

* Offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers.

* Burn incense.

* Wear a willow wreath on your head.

* Go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca.

In short, be a man and act to show that you live by honoring your dead ancestors at Hungry Ghost Festival on August 25,, 2018.

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Yale Guen Mar, repent. Visit the graves of your parents.

* Kowtow to the graves.

* Clean the headstones

* sweep the graves

* take out the weed

* offer choicest mai tai and potstickers

* offer paper money and burn incense

* most of all, meet your siblings who gather there at occasions
like the Hungry Ghost Festival and the Quingming Festival

Kim Hi Wong...

She never had any education, cannot read or write.
She can only beat her children and berate them.
Don't ever talk to me about her again.

A bad mother is a rarity. A bad son a far more common occurrence. Yale Guen Mar is of course trying to shift the blame on his mother. But it is obvious that it is Yale Guen Mar who was always at fault.

Ellen Heath is 11 years younger than Yale Guen Mar. Donald and Eugene are even younger. Kim Hi Wong did a super job bringing up Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

Yes, she failed with Yale Guen Mar who was incorrigible. No mother could have made a difference to Yale Guen Mar because of his congenital character flaws.

I fault Kim Hi Wong not for beating Yale Guen Mar whenever he got into mischief, but for not beating him enough. That was the only way she could have straightened out Yale Guen Mar.

...and Tony Chee Mar

Had a fourth grade education, afraid of life, cannot make decision.
Completely worthless.

Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.

* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.

* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.

* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.

* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.

* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.

* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.

* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.

* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.

...did their very best to bring up their children. Your siblings Ellen,

Graduated from college, but went to work for Play-Boy Club in Chicago.
Became a sales-lady for an electronics company, and said the electronics she sold were made into bombs to kill people. She hated the job.

Yale Guen Mar, your kid sister Ellen was also born in China. She cam to USA after you did. But she has done well in life - didn't waste her life the way you have.

Yale Guen Mar, remember the time you went missing from Safford, AZ as a teenager till you resurfaced in Chicago, IL ?

Yale Guen Mar, recall how you ran away from home as a teenager. You ended in Chicago where you tried to enroll as a Bunny Boy with Playboy.

Your mother, Kim Hi Wong, had filed a missing person report with the police. The police found you just in time because you might have got murdered by the unsavory characters you had started mixing with to earn money as a boy prostitute.

When you cam back home, your sister Ellen (who was 11 years younger than you) cried and cried and made you swear never to run away from home again.

But then you misused your stay with your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar (who posts under the fake name of Resty Wyse) do you understand why Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to do what they did.

Because of your unstable temperament, you were a menace not just to yourself and your relatives but even to your neighbors.

;;;Donald and Eugene are all achievers. You are the black sheep in the family.

Why are so angry and jealous ? Why are you so mean to yur brothers?

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/8Fv-iHWD78k

Dr. Eugene Yale Mar has been a quadriplegic since his ski accident, and I think he has even stopped practicing medicine, and may have been under state care. His wife dorvorced him. His son lives in the Phoenix area.

So you continue to bear ill-will toward your kid brother Eugene because he is a medical doctor and because refuses to be your friend on Facebook?

Grow up Yale Guen Mar.

And, yes, Eugene refuses to have you as his friend on Facebook because he is wary of your intentions. You have done nothing to show that you have the welfare of your kid brother Eugene in your heart.

If Dr. Eugene Yale Mar joined his older siblings Ellen and Donald to get rid of your gun collection and album of photos of your favorite pigs, it is to protect you from yourself.

But you still haven't forgiven your kid brother for that !! How low can you get ?

Yale Guen Mar (who posts under the fake name of Resty Wyse) do you understand why Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to do what they did.

Because of your unstable temperament, you were a menace not just to yourself and your relatives but even to your neighbors.

Ellen, Donald and Eugene had to get rid of your gun collection and album of photos of your favorite pigs from the room in your parents' home on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ. They were only trying to save you from yourself.

You are a loser, Yale Guen Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, you still have not been able to forgive Ellen, Donald and Eugene because they got rid of your gun collection and the album of photos of your favorite pigs from your room in your parents' house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ. And also because they graduated from college and are success stories in their chosen professions.

Without me, none of them would be anything today.

Patting yourself on the back, Yale Guen Mar?

https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/_fwiR-JrgGs

There was a Chinese family, both husband and wife graduated from UC-Davis medical school. At 4 P.M. the husband and children said they had enough. The wife/mother said: "One more time", and went up the slope on a ski-lift. The husband and children waited and waited until 5 P.M. before they called the operator to look for her. They never found her.
The next summer, two hunters found her handbag, IDs, and human bones on the other side of the slope. She was probably the only one up the hill, and ski off the wrong side of the hill!!!

Look at you, Yale Guen Mar. You don't even have a college degree or even a wife. And you are claiming that you didn't go to college because you didn't want to die in a skiing accident.

Yale Guen Mar, don't you know how worried Valerie Yamashita is about your mental health?

Valentina and Luca asked you to give them toilet traning, right? And that's the reason you exposed yourself to him on skype !!!

It is another matter that Silvia didn't buy your story. And now you cannot skype with Valentina and Luca without supervision by another adult.

Yale Guen Mar, you have taken sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

Why can't you appreciate the achievements of your brothers Donald and Eugene who are successful as medical doctors ? Why are you so jealous of them?

Yale Guen Mar, grow up. Accept your mediocrity and learn to appreciate other people's achievments.

Heck, you can't even stand the fact that your brothers Donald and Eugene did well as medical doctors. This is taking sibling rivalry to ridiculously vicious levels.

[s***@gmail.com]

Yale Guen Mar (Resty) , are you ready for the Quingming Festival on April 5?

Yale Guen Mar, your parents were noble souls. They did their best to bring up their children. Your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene owe their accomplishemnets to their parents.

Yale Guen Mar, if you have failed in life, it is because of your inherent character flaws. No parents could have done better for you.

I haven't seen my children, my grand-children for years, Satish.
They don't want to come to a small town.
I don't want to go to a big city!!!!
And I have not seen any of my sibblings for many many years.

Yale Guen Mar, that's indeed so very sad.

Well, at least you can make peace with your departed ancestors in general and with Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar in particular.

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Quingming Festival on Friday, April 5, 2018. Honor your noble parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar by sweeping their tombs and making offerings. And you can do that by helping yopur siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they pay respects to Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.


Yale Guen Mar, you should prepare yourself to:

* climb mountains with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene

* visit the graves of ancestors

* plant chrysanthemums

* wear a wreath made of zhuyu (Yale Guen Mar, don't insert it into your asshole)

* eat rice cakes

* drink chrysanthemum wine and/or chrysanthemum tea

Yale Guen Mar, when you visit the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, help Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they:

* Polish the headstone.

* Sweep the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* Offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers for your departed
parents and all your other ancestors.

* Burn incense and smell the coffee.

* Wear a willow wreath on your fat head.

* Go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca and have a good time with them.

Be a man and act to show that you live by honoring your dead ancestors at the Quingming Festival as you must at Hungry Ghost Festival and the Double Nine Festival as well.

Yale Guen Mar, recall the 1963 Pontiac that your dad Tony Chee Mar bought for you when you were 25. He also let you have a room in his house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ long into your adulthood.
“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
- Deuteronomy 5:16
Yale Guen Mar, are you still mad with your mother, Kim Hi Wong?
Isn't that grossly unfair?
There are bad sons (like Yale Guen Mar) but bad mother is an oxymoron.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topicsoc.culture.china/h4EEjkYssaw

And that is certainly not the fault of your mother, Kim Hi Wong.

She was the worst of the worse.

Get over your irrational grudges.
Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were great parents. Ellen, Donald and Eugene grew up to be accomplished citizens. If you didn't it was your own character flaws that came in the way. Don't blame them, blame yourself for your pitiable life.
Remember everything you owe Tony Chee Mar. You met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old FOB in San Francisco - you had arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Remember what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey." Wonder-struck, you asked him, "What is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"
Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.
* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.
* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.
* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.
* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.
* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.
* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.
* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.
* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.
And, yes, Tony Chee Mar did punish you often when you were growing up , but that was because he had to. He hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.
Unfortunately, you were incorrigible. You just couldn't stay on the straight and narrow. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China of finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made sure that you were never more than the miserable self you are right now.
Yale Guen Mar, you are still blinded by rage more than a dozen years after Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong passed away.
You are angry that you got punished by Kim Hi Wong who was doing all she could to keep you in the straight and narrow but to no avail.
It seems you are still sore that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.
You shouldn't bear grudge against Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head either.
Tony Chee Mar wanted to be a thoughtful father for an 11-year old boy he was seeing for the first time in his life. Tony had declared himself to be your father so that you could find refuge in USA after the imposition of CCP dictatorship in Beijing.
Yale Guen Mar, your "father" didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.
That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.
But don't be an ingrate. Tony Chee Mar did his best to bring you up properly. You owe him immense debt. The least you can do is to visit Tony Chee Mar's grave now and then. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

[s***@gmail.com]

Yale Guen Mar (Resty), today is the 18th anniversary of the passing away of Tony Vhee Mar. He is like a father to you. He was kind enough to sign papers declaring you to be his son so that you can seek refuge in USA from the Communist takeover in China in 1949.

Yale Guen Mar, your parents were noble souls. They did their best to bring up their children. Your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene owe their accomplishemnets to their parents.

Yale Guen Mar, if you have failed in life, it is because of your inherent character flaws. No parents could have done better for you.

I haven't seen my children, my grand-children for years, Satish.
They don't want to come to a small town.
I don't want to go to a big city!!!!
And I have not seen any of my sibblings for many many years.

Yale Guen Mar, that's indeed so very sad.

Well, at least you can make peace with your departed ancestors in general and with Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar in particular.

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Chongyang Festival on Sunday, October 17, 2018. That's the seniors' Day. You have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 80.

What is a "Double Nine Festival", Satish!!!

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Double Nine Festival coming up on Sunday, October 17, 2018. That's the seniors' Day. - you have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 80.

At the Chongyang (Double Nine) Festival ,we pay homage to our ancestors as well.

Yale Guen Mar, you should prepare yourself to:

* do climb mountains with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene

* do visit the graves of ancestors

* do plant chrysanthemums

* do wear a wreath made of zhuyu (Yale Guen Mar, don't insert it into your asshole)

* do eat rice cakes

* do drink chrysanthemum wine and/or chrysanthemum tea

Yale Guen Mar, when you visit thegraves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, help Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they:

* Do polish the headstone.

* Do sweep the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* Do offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers for your departed
parents and all your other ancestors.

* Do burn incense and smell the coffee.

* Do wear a willow wreath on your fat head.

* Do go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca and have a good time with them.

Be a man and act to show that you live by honoring your dead ancestors at the Chongyang Festival as you must at Hungry Ghost Festival and at the Quingming Festival as well.

[s***@gmail.com]

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Yale Guen Mar, recall the 1963 Pontiac that your dad Tony Chee Mar bought for you when you were 25. He also let you have a room in his house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ long into your adulthood.
“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
- Deuteronomy 5:16
Yale Guen Mar, are you still mad with your mother, Kim Hi Wong?
Isn't that grossly unfair?
There are bad sons (like Yale Guen Mar) but bad mother is an oxymoron.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topicsoc.culture.china/h4EEjkYssaw

And that is certainly not the fault of your mother, Kim Hi Wong.

She was the worst of the worse.

Get over your irrational grudges.
Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were great parents. Ellen, Donald and Eugene grew up to be accomplished citizens. If you didn't it was your own character flaws that came in the way. Don't blame them, blame yourself for your pitiable life.
Remember everything you owe Tony Chee Mar. You met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old FOB in San Francisco - you had arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Remember what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey." Wonder-struck, you asked him, "What is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"
Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.
* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.
* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.
* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.
* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.
* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.
* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.
* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.
* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.
And, yes, Tony Chee Mar did punish you often when you were growing up , but that was because he had to. He hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.
Unfortunately, you were incorrigible. You just couldn't stay on the straight and narrow. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China of finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made sure that you were never more than the miserable self you are right now.
Yale Guen Mar, you are still blinded by rage more than a dozen years after Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong passed away.
You are angry that you got punished by Kim Hi Wong who was doing all she could to keep you in the straight and narrow but to no avail.
It seems you are still sore that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.
You shouldn't bear grudge against Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head either.
Tony Chee Mar wanted to be a thoughtful father for an 11-year old boy he was seeing for the first time in his life. Tony had declared himself to be your father so that you could find refuge in USA after the imposition of CCP dictatorship in Beijing.
Yale Guen Mar, your "father" didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.
That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.
But don't be an ingrate. Tony Chee Mar did his best to bring you up properly. You owe him immense debt. The least you can do is to visit Tony Chee Mar's grave now and then. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

Yale Guen Mar (Resty), you have failed your ancestors once again.

March 28 was the death anniversary of your father Tony Chee Mar.

Once again, you failed to honor him on his death anniversary.

That's a pity. If you had come to his tomb on the death anniversary, you would have met a lot of your relatives.

All your siblings were there - Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

All your kids were there - Valerie, Kimberly, Brenton and even Carlton.

Luca, Valentina and Judah were there. Even Silvia, May Fung and Dr. Roberto Buonamici were there to pay respects to the family patriarch, Tony Chee Mar.

Why weren't you there, Yale Guen Mar?

Well, you can make amends on Friday, next week (April 5). It is the Quingming Festival.

Bring your broom so that you can join in sweeping the grave clean.

Honor your noble parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar by sweeping their tombs and making offerings. And you can do that by helping yopur siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they pay respects to Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.


Yale Guen Mar, you should prepare yourself to:

* do climb mountains with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene

* do visit the graves of ancestors

* do plant chrysanthemums

* do wear a wreath made of zhuyu (Yale Guen Mar, don't insert it into your asshole)

* do eat rice cakes

* do drink chrysanthemum wine and/or chrysanthemum tea

Yale Guen Mar, when you visit the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, help Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they:

* Do polish the headstone.

* Do sweep the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* Do offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers for your departed
parents and all your other ancestors.

* Do burn incense and smell the coffee.

* Do wear a willow wreath on your fat head.

* Do go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca and have a good time with them.

Try to be a man for a change and act to show that you live by honoring your dead ancestors at the Quingming Festival as you must at Hungry Ghost Festival and the Double Nine Festival as well.

[s***@gmail.com]

Resty (Yale Guen Mar), it is time for you to rebalance your yin and yang. Don't sulk in Merced, CA. Celebrate the Chongyang Festival on Wednesday, October 17, 2018 in the company of your Arizona siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene in Tucson, AZ.

I haven't seen my children, my grand-children for years, Satish.
They don't want to come to a small town.
I don't want to go to a big city!!!!
And I have not seen any of my sibblings for many many years.

Yale Guen Mar, that's indeed so very sad.

Well, at least you can make peace with your departed ancestors in general and with Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar in particular.

Friday (April 5) is the Quingming Festival. You know where to be on that day with your broom, don't you?

Yale Guen Mar, you missed a great opportunity to honor yourself and all your ancestors when you failed to turn up at the graves of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar for honoring them on the 18th death anniversary of your dad Tony Chee Mar on March 28.

It would have been an ideal opportunity to bond with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

But here's another opportunity to ingratiate yourself with your siblings - be in Tucson, AZ to celebrate Quingming Festival. Do it right and Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet accept you as a friend on Facebook.

Yale Guen Mar, we know you are in the no-fly list of all airlines since that fiasco in 2010 when you were put in the cage inside a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.

But you don't need to board a plance to go to Tucson, AZ. You don't even need a ride from Carlton.

There is a direct rain from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. The fare is quite cheap - under $70.

https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/

Yale Guen Mar, you should have taken a train trip to Tucson, AZ to be in time by 28th October to be at the East Palm Cemetery in Lot 49 where your parents are buried. You should have celebrated the Double Nine Festival. You should have visited Tony Chee Mar's tomb, tidied it up, offered food, flowers, paper money and burnt incense sticks.

Yale Guen Mar, you would have felt so much better.

Yale Guen Mar, quit your fatal attraction for the taro patches of your Hmong neighbors in Merced, CA. Go to Tucson, AZ right away. It is never too late.

Wait in Tucson, AZ for one more week and visit Lot 49 on November 5. It was on this day, 102 years ago that Tony Chee Mar was born. You will also get to meet your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene. Brenton will be there with Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia will fly dowwn from Boston to honor the family patriarch Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, your past transgressions will be forgiven. Eugene might actually accept you as a friend on Facebook.

So, Yale Guen Mar, book yourself a train ticket from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. You won't regret your decision.

[s***@gmail.com]

Resty (Yale Guen Mar). you need to address an important issue.

Why don't you ever join your siblings and other family members when they honor your ancestors?

As usual, you were no where to be found when they were honoring your "dad" Tony Chee Mar on Monday, November 5 on the 103rd anniversary of his birth.

Yale Guen Mar, stop sulking about all imaginary slights from the family.

Go to Tucson, AZ and kowtow in front of Tony Chee Mar's grave at the East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49). You'll find your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene there tending the tomb of Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.

* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.

* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.

* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.

* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.

* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.

* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.

* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac on your 25th birthday.

* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.

Yale Guen Mar, it is time to make a new beginning. Forget your grudge against your "dad" Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, keep these two dates etched in your brain for good:

* November 5, 1915 (Tony Chee Mar's birth)

* March 28, 1999 (Tony Chee Mar's death)

These two days, visit his grave in Lot 49 of East Palm Cemetery in Tucson, AZ.

Meet the other descendants of Tony Chee Mar - sons Donald and Eugene and daughter Ellen. Even grandson Brenton and great grand children Judah, Valentina and Luca.

Help them as they tidy up the grave site, clean the tomb stone, offer incense and paper money and, of course, mai tai.

Yale Guen Mar, you owe a lot to your "dad". Tony Chee Mar was a very kind man :

* Tony Chee Mar gave Yale Guen Mar his first Thanksgiving meal

* Tony Chee Mar let Yale Guen Mar into his own house
on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ

* Tony Chee Mar taught English and Math to Yale Guen Mar and
taught him the difference between rational and irrational numbers.

* Tony Chee Mar gave Yale Guen Mar his first job at his cafe.

* Tony Chee Mar bought Yale Guen Mar his first car (a 1963 Pontiac).

But Yale Guen Mar was an ingrate. He has continued to resent Tony Chee Mar because:

* Tony Chee Mar had chopped off Yale Guen Mar's pigtail
when he alighted from the ship that had brought him
to San Francisco from Hong Kong.

* Tony Chee Mar refused Yale Guen Mar to shave a straight line in the head.

* Tony Chee Mar insisted on a crew cut for Yale Guen Mar so that he could meld
better with his classmates in the new country.

* Tony Chee Mar punished Yale Guen Mar whenever he strayed from the
straight and narrow (which unfortunately) was far more often than for a normal boy

Yale Guen Mar has refused to get over his grudges.

Yale Guen Mar stays alone at:

3851 Twilight Avenue
Merced, CA 95348

Yale Guen Mar refuses to visit the graves of his parents Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong in Tucson, AZ even during the Quingming Festival.

Yale Guen Mar, take a train from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ to be at the grave of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar as often as you can . It is in East Palm Cemetery (look for Lot 49).

Here's the address and phone number:

East Palm Cemetery

5801 East Grant Road #C
Tucson, AZ 85712

[phone]

Also, try to get along with Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

Yale Guen Mar, everything about you is fake.

* fake names (Resty Wyse, Buddy Frank, Rusty Wyseman)

* fake race - Yale Guen Mar claims to be a Caucasian at every opportunity

* fake IDs (rst0/2/4/7/9)

* fake diploma (electrical engineering)

* fake citizenship papers for USA and

* even a fake circumcision scar drawn on your penis with a sharpie !!!

Post by s***@gmail.com
Yale Guen Mar, recall the 1963 Pontiac that your dad Tony Chee Mar bought for you when you were 25. He also let you have a room in his house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ long into your adulthood.
“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
- Deuteronomy 5:16
Yale Guen Mar, are you still mad with your mother, Kim Hi Wong?
Isn't that grossly unfair?
There are bad sons (like Yale Guen Mar) but bad mother is an oxymoron.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topicsoc.culture.china/h4EEjkYssaw

And that is certainly not the fault of your mother, Kim Hi Wong.

She was the worst of the worse.

Get over your irrational grudges.
Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were great parents. Ellen, Donald and Eugene grew up to be accomplished citizens. If you didn't it was your own character flaws that came in the way. Don't blame them, blame yourself for your pitiable life.
Remember everything you owe Tony Chee Mar. You met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old FOB in San Francisco - you had arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Remember what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey." Wonder-struck, you asked him, "What is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"
Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.
* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.
* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.
* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.
* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.
* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.
* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.
* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.
* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.
And, yes, Tony Chee Mar did punish you often when you were growing up , but that was because he had to. He hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.
Unfortunately, you were incorrigible. You just couldn't stay on the straight and narrow. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China of finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made sure that you were never more than the miserable self you are right now.
Yale Guen Mar, you are still blinded by rage more than a dozen years after Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong passed away.
You are angry that you got punished by Kim Hi Wong who was doing all she could to keep you in the straight and narrow but to no avail.
It seems you are still sore that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.
You shouldn't bear grudge against Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head either.
Tony Chee Mar wanted to be a thoughtful father for an 11-year old boy he was seeing for the first time in his life. Tony had declared himself to be your father so that you could find refuge in USA after the imposition of CCP dictatorship in Beijing.
Yale Guen Mar, your "father" didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.
That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.
But don't be an ingrate. Tony Chee Mar did his best to bring you up properly. You owe him immense debt. The least you can do is to visit Tony Chee Mar's grave now and then. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

[s***@gmail.com]

Post by s***@gmail.com
Yale Guen Mar, recall the 1963 Pontiac that your dad Tony Chee Mar bought for you when you were 25. He also let you have a room in his house on 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ long into your adulthood.
“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”
- Deuteronomy 5:16
Yale Guen Mar, are you still mad with your mother, Kim Hi Wong?
Isn't that grossly unfair?
There are bad sons (like Yale Guen Mar) but bad mother is an oxymoron.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topicsoc.culture.china/h4EEjkYssaw

And that is certainly not the fault of your mother, Kim Hi Wong.

She was the worst of the worse.

Get over your irrational grudges.
Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were great parents. Ellen, Donald and Eugene grew up to be accomplished citizens. If you didn't it was your own character flaws that came in the way. Don't blame them, blame yourself for your pitiable life.
Remember everything you owe Tony Chee Mar. You met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old FOB in San Francisco - you had arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Remember what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey." Wonder-struck, you asked him, "What is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"
Yale Guen Mar, be grateful for everything your "father" Tony Chee Mar did for you selflessly.
* Tony Chee Mar signed papers to declare you to be his son so that
you could find refuge in USA after fleeing CCP takeover of China.
* Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ.
* Tony Chee Mar let you work in his cafe.
* Tony Chee Mar taught you English and mathematics.
* Tony Chee Mar tried to teach you the difference between
rational and irrational numbers. It is another matter that
you were too dumb to understand.
* Tony Chee Mar let you have a room in their house at 914 10th Street in Safford, AZ
long after you had reached adulthood.
* Tony Chee Mar bought you a 1963 Pontiac when you were in your mid-twenties.
* You stopped mooching off your parents only when your
siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene put a stop to it.
And, yes, Tony Chee Mar did punish you often when you were growing up , but that was because he had to. He hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.
Unfortunately, you were incorrigible. You just couldn't stay on the straight and narrow. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China of finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made sure that you were never more than the miserable self you are right now.
Yale Guen Mar, you are still blinded by rage more than a dozen years after Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong passed away.
You are angry that you got punished by Kim Hi Wong who was doing all she could to keep you in the straight and narrow but to no avail.
It seems you are still sore that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.
You shouldn't bear grudge against Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head either.
Tony Chee Mar wanted to be a thoughtful father for an 11-year old boy he was seeing for the first time in his life. Tony had declared himself to be your father so that you could find refuge in USA after the imposition of CCP dictatorship in Beijing.
Yale Guen Mar, your "father" didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.
That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.
But don't be an ingrate. Tony Chee Mar did his best to bring you up properly. You owe him immense debt. The least you can do is to visit Tony Chee Mar's grave now and then. Do so on November 5 (birthday), March 28 (day of death) and, of course, at Quingming festival and the Hungry Ghost festival. You will be a happier man if you do so.

Yale Guen Mar, your parents were noble souls. They did their best to bring up their children. Your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene owe their accomplishemnets to their parents.

Yale Guen Mar, if you have failed in life, it is because of your inherent character flaws. No parents could have done better for you.

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I haven't seen my children, my grand-children for years, Satish.
They don't want to come to a small town.
I don't want to go to a big city!!!!
And I have not seen any of my sibblings for many many years.

Yale Guen Mar, that's indeed so very sad.

Well, at least you can make peace with your departed ancestors in general and with Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar in particular.

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Quingming Festival on Friday, April 5, 2019. That's the Day to tend to your ancestors tombs. Take a broom and join your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene at the East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) in Tucson, AZ.

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What is a "Double Nine Festival", Satish!!!

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Double Nine Festival coming up on Sunday, October 17, 2018. That's the seniors' Day. - you have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 80.

At the Chongyang (Double Nine) Festival ,we pay homage to our ancestors as well.

Yale Guen Mar, you should prepare yourself to:

* climb mountains with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene

* visit the graves of ancestors

* plant chrysanthemums

* wear a wreath made of zhuyu (Yale Guen Mar, don't insert it into your asshole)

* eat rice cakes

* drink chrysanthemum wine and/or chrysanthemum tea

Yale Guen Mar, when you visit thegraves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, help Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they:

* Polish the headstone.

* Sweep the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* Offer the choicest mai tai, play money and flowers for your departed
parents and all your other ancestors.

* Burn incense and smell the coffee.

* Wear a willow wreath on your fat head.

* Go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca and have a good time with them.

Be a man and act to show that you live by honoring your dead ancestors at the Chongyang Festival as you must at Hungry Ghost Festival and at the Quingming Festival as well.

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Yale Guen Mar (Resty), you never miss an opportunity to redeem yourself. Try to break away from your dismal track record.

Don't forget to join your siblings for the Quingming festival - help Ellen, Donald and Eugene to sweep the tombs and to polish the headstone.

Join all your other relatives to honor your ancestors.

Vlerie, Kimberly, Brenton and even Carlton will be there at the East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) to do the needful for the Quingming Festival.

Valentina and Luca have flown in with May Fung and Dr. Roberto Buonamici.

Join all of them to honor your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.

See how happy Eugene looks during the Quingming Festival - he is always at the graves of his parents with Janet and Christopher.

Resty (Yale Guen Mar), it is time for you to rebalance your yin and yang. Don't sulk in Merced, CA. Celebrate the Chongyang Festival on Friday, April 5, 2019 in the company of your Arizona siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene in Tucson, AZ.

Yale Guen Mar, honor all those who did you good without asking anything in return. Honor your parents Tony Chee Mar & Kim Hi Wong, your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene, your cousins Homer, Gini, Clarence and Larry.

Yale Guen Mar, you'll never change. You just can't teach new tricks to old dogs. And you are very very old at 80.

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They are worse than me.
The headstone had a problem since the very beginning.
They wouldn't even get the stone cutter to correct it.

Yale Guen Mar, your head has a problem.

Unfortunately it remains unfixed.

Yale Guen Mar, you have been estranged from the Mar clan for a long time.

Now that you are at the fag end of your miserable life, you should try to make amends.

Don't you want Eugene Yale mar to accept you as a friend on Facebook?

Why didn't you join Eugene in Tucson, AZ on the Quing Ming Festival on April 5 to honor and humor the ghosts of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar? Vow to tend their graves in East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49). Bring the choicest Mai Tai and the finest in Taishanese cuisine to offer to the ghosts of your parents.

Burn paper money and incense. Tie a willow branch on your head and dance. Fly a kite to please your mother Kim Hi Wong.

Play your cards right and Eugene might yet accept you as a friend on Facebook.

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I will go nowhere, Satish. Yuhua has select a grave site for me already.

I'll let you on to a secret, Ylae Guen Mar (posting under the fake name of Resty Wyse). The grave site, you think is for you, is not really for you.

Yuhua and Carlton are sick and tired of listening to your desire for a sky burial.

Yuhua and Carlton have decided that their first choice for the grave site is Carlton's biological father from China, He visits Fremont, CA every year It would be fitting if he rests in peace in that grave site chosen by his beloved Yuhua.

In case that is not possible both Carlton and Yuhua have decided to bury Kimi and Subi there when the time comes.

So, Yale Guen Mar, short of a Tibetan sky burial, you are destined to rest in peace in Safford, AZ.


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My father went to see a fortune teller in 1949 in Hong Kong.
1: Get a second wife when he's 45 years old.
2: He will die at age 65.
You don't need a fortune teller to make these kind of truth to any man.
1: His wife will be having her menopause. Get a young woman for sex.
2: In 1949, the life-span of Chinese male was about 65 years old.

Yale Guen Mar, you had a great wife in Lillian Dili Han, didn't you? So, what happened? Why did you mistreat her?

But what goes around comes around. Now Yuhua is making discrete enquiries about the grave sites of Lillian Dili Han and her esteemed mother. The plan is to squeeze some space between the remains of Lillian Dili Han and her esteemed mother for the burial of your body.

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Yale Guen Mar (Resty), you shortchanged no one but yourself by going MIA at the East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) to celebrate the Quingming Festival in the company of your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

It was an impressive sight at Lot 49 of East Palm Cemetery in Tucson, AZ.

All your siblings were there - Ellen, Donald and Eugene. None seemed more happy than Dr. Eugene Yale Mar who was there with Janet and Christoher.

It was the first time I was seeing Eugene after we vacationed together in Brazil a few years back. He entusuaistically wilded the broom to sweep the tombs of his mother Kim Hi Wong and his father Tony Chee Mar. Christopher helped with polishing the headstones.

Brenton had flown in from Boston, not with just Valentina and Luca bit even with May Fung and Dr. Buonamici.

Valerie was there with a lot of Yamashitas in tow and so was Kimberly.

Even Carlton came, not just with Yuhau Luo but also with his father whis visiting Hayward, CA from China.

Yale Guen Mar, you are already 81. How long are you going to sulk for your imagined grievances against mom Kim Hi Wong and dad Tony Chee Mar?

Yale Guen Mar, your parents were noble souls. They did their best to bring up their children. Your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene owe their accomplishemnets to their parents.

Yale Guen Mar, if you have failed in life, it is because of your inherent character flaws. No parents could have done better for you.

I haven't seen my children, my grand-children for years, Satish.
They don't want to come to a small town.
I don't want to go to a big city!!!!
And I have not seen any of my sibblings for many many years.

Yale Guen Mar, that's indeed so very sad.

Well, at least you can make peace with your departed ancestors in general and with Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar in particular.

Yale Guen Mar, you shouldn't have failed to join your relatives to celebrate the Quingming Festival. Be there for the Hungry Ghost Festival on August 15. is the day to pay respects to the deceased by offering sacrifices. The Hungry Ghost Festival is regarded as the most important one among all the festivals that offering sacrifices the deceased.

What is a "Double Nine Festival", Satish!!!

Yale Guen Mar, don't forget the Double Nine Festival coming up on Sunday, October 7, 2019. That's the seniors' Day. - you have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 81.

At the Chongyang (Double Nine) Festival ,we pay homage to our ancestors as well.

Yale Guen Mar, you should prepare yourself to:

* Go mountain climbing with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene

* visit the graves of ancestors, and especially of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* plant chrysanthemums and drink chrysanthemum tea

* wear a wreath made of zhuyu (Yale Guen Mar, please don't insert it into your asshole)

* eat chong yang cakes

* drink chrysanthemum wine and also chrysanthemum tea

* visit all your elderly relatives.

* visit your message carrying cousin in Santa Clara

* don't forget to visit cousin Homer and his beautiful wife Cynthia.

Yale Guen Mar, when you visit thegraves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, lend a helping hand (or two) to Ellen, Donald and Eugene as they:

* Clean and polish the headstone.

* Sweep clean the graves of Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar

* Offer the choicest mai tai, play money, flowers and incense for your departed
parents and all your other ancestors who are long gone.

* Burn incense and do smell the coffee.

* Wear a willow wreath on your fat head - please don't try to hang on your penis.

* Go up on swings with Judah, Valentina and Luca and, in general, have a good time with them.

Be a man and act to show that you are now determined to live by honoring your dead ancestors at the Chongyang Festival as you must at Hungry Ghost Festival and at the Quingming Festival as well.