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Yale Guen Mar, ready for Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary? Tony would have been 102 on November 5. Ellen, Donald and Eugene will honor dad as they always do. So will Brenton, Luca and Valentina.
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Stop it, stupid asshole.
It's none od your business.
Now, stop it.
Yale Guen Mar, ready for Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary? Tony would have been 102 on November 5. Donald, Ellen and Eugene will honor Tony Chee Mar as they always do every November 5. So will Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even May Fung, Roberto and Silvia are planning to join them.

Eugene, Ellen and Donald are throwing a joint party in Tucson, AZ for ghosts of Kim Hi Wong Tony Chee Mar as they do every year.

Yale Guen Mar, you have wasted your life utterly. A fifth generation restaurant worker that you are, you could not hold on to jobs even as a janitor in restaurants.

But don't blame your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar for your plight. They did their level best to keep you afloat and on the straight and narrow. Your failures are the result of character flaws of your very own.

Yale Guen Mar, the least you can do is to pay homage to your parents and all your other ancestors. Coming up is Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary. He would have been 102 on November 5, 2017.

November is also the 68th anniversary of the first time you met Tony Chee Mar after you sailed into San Francisco from Hong Kong as an 11 year old boy in 1949 after the CCP took control of PRC.

It will be a grand gesture if, in spite of your character flaws, you can get yourself to join your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene to honor and humor the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.

November 5 will be a good time for you to honor the past with a spirit of celebration that includes space for both reflection and renewal.

But most of all, it will be a time for you to bond with Ellen, Donald and Eugene and, perhaps, even with Brenton, Lica and Valentina.

Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet agree to have you as a friend on Facebook.

So, go for it, Yale Guen Mar. Travel to Tucson, AZ. Visit the gravesite of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. It is in Lot 9 of East Palm Cemetery. It will be a wonderful opportunity to reminesce about ancestors with your siblings and other kith and kin. Fly kites or plant seeds to make the occasion a joyous one.

And don't forget to offer the best Mai Tai and the finest in Taishanese cuisine to the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.

But your most visible activity should revolve around tomb sweeping, the ritual cleaning of gravesites to honor a family’s ancestors. People care for their relatives in the afterlife by visiting at the cemetery, refreshing their tombstones and making offerings of food, incense and joss paper. Once tomb sweeping is complete, join the picnic that your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene arrange for all the relatives, kith and kin.

But tidying up the graves of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong is the most imprtant thing for you to do on November 5. It is a respectful family tradition that goes to the heart of filial piety. Symbolically, a clean and tidy gravesite will remind Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong that you are finally repenting all your failings. They will forgive you and so will your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene.

Brenton, Luca and Valentina are doing the same in Boston.

The family in Boston will be joined by May Fung from Quincy and Dr. Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany.

Yale Guen Mar, do something nice for the ghosts who would like nothing better than to drink your wine, eat your food and smell your incense.

Yalke Guen Mar, if you fail in your filial duties, then ... well ... , you'll reap as you sow.

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China gotta ban this practice. It pollutes the environment and waste good paper. - People burn paper money on ghost festival to mourn for victims in Yunnan earthquake
Yale Guen Mar, don't bad-mouth Hungy Ghost Festival - you do far more harm to the environment:

* when you shit in taro patches of your Hmong neighbors

* when your diapers leak on Ravinder's sofa and on Rolida Lee's reclining chair

* when you fart in Merced Community Food Market, Yue Cheng Market and Rancho San Miguel Supermarket

* when the tampons inside your asshole leak blood

Yale Guen Mar, take an outing to Tucson, Arizona. Catch a bus to get there. Plan to be in Tucson, AZ on 5th November - your "dad" Tony Chee Mar would have been 102 on 5th November. He was born on November 5, 1915.

Enjoy the nature. Go fly a kite. Wear willow branches on the head. Ride on swings. Such outings not only add joy to life but also promote a healthy body and mind.

Moment of truth for you, Yale Guen Mar. You already have one foot on your grave. There is not much time left for you to redeem yourself.

Yale Guen Mar, it is time to redeem yourself. November 5 is just around the corner. It is 18 days before Thanksgiving. November 5 is just the ideal date for you to honor your ancestors in general and your "dad" Tony Chee Mar in particular..

Travel to Tucson, Arizona. Visit East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) to visit the gravesites of your noble-hearted parents. Tidy up the place. Clear the weeds. Offer flowers and paper money. Burn incenses. Kowtow before the tombstones of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. You'll feel a lot better.

You will also get to meet your relatives at the grave site. Your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene are certain to be there. Brenton will be there with his two kids Luca and Valentina. Silvia will be there to pay respects to the family patriarch. Heck, even May Fung from Quincy, MA and Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany, Italy are planning to be at the gravesite on November 5.

This is a golden opportunity for you to make amends for all your acts of omission and commission. Eugene might finally forgive you to have you as a freiend on Facebook.

I know you can't fly. You have been put on a no-fly list after that fiasco in 2010 when you had to be put on a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.

But you don't need to fly if you wish to go to Tucson. What happened to the minivan that Yuhua Luo gave you to get rid of you from her life? And, anyway, you can always take a bus.

So go for it. I'll be there on Quingming day. It will be an experience for everyone to meet you there finally.
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2017-09-29 14:39:17 UTC
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Yale Guen Mar, on your way to November 5 (Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary), don't forget the Double Nine Festival on October 28. That's the seniors' Day. You have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 79.

You can get double the joy at the Double Nine Festival by remembering and honoring your "dad" Tony Chee Mar, your mother Kim Hi Wong and all your other ancestors. Show them respect.

Eat Chongyang cakes and drink chrysanthemum wine.

Best of all, go to Tucson, AZ and visit Lot 49 at East Palm Cemetery. Tend to the tombs of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.

Try to bond with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene by exhibiting filial piety.

Eugene might yet forgive you and accept you as a friend on Facebook.
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Stop it, stupid asshole.
It's none od your business.
Now, stop it.
Yale Guen Mar, ready for Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary? Tony would have been 102 on November 5. Donald, Ellen and Eugene will honor Tony Chee Mar as they always do every November 5. So will Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even May Fung, Roberto and Silvia are planning to join them.
Eugene, Ellen and Donald are throwing a joint party in Tucson, AZ for ghosts of Kim Hi Wong Tony Chee Mar as they do every year.
Yale Guen Mar, you have wasted your life utterly. A fifth generation restaurant worker that you are, you could not hold on to jobs even as a janitor in restaurants.
But don't blame your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar for your plight. They did their level best to keep you afloat and on the straight and narrow. Your failures are the result of character flaws of your very own.
Yale Guen Mar, the least you can do is to pay homage to your parents and all your other ancestors. Coming up is Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary. He would have been 102 on November 5, 2017.
November is also the 68th anniversary of the first time you met Tony Chee Mar after you sailed into San Francisco from Hong Kong as an 11 year old boy in 1949 after the CCP took control of PRC.
It will be a grand gesture if, in spite of your character flaws, you can get yourself to join your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene to honor and humor the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.
November 5 will be a good time for you to honor the past with a spirit of celebration that includes space for both reflection and renewal.
But most of all, it will be a time for you to bond with Ellen, Donald and Eugene and, perhaps, even with Brenton, Lica and Valentina.
Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet agree to have you as a friend on Facebook.
So, go for it, Yale Guen Mar. Travel to Tucson, AZ. Visit the gravesite of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. It is in Lot 9 of East Palm Cemetery. It will be a wonderful opportunity to reminesce about ancestors with your siblings and other kith and kin. Fly kites or plant seeds to make the occasion a joyous one.
And don't forget to offer the best Mai Tai and the finest in Taishanese cuisine to the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.
But your most visible activity should revolve around tomb sweeping, the ritual cleaning of gravesites to honor a family’s ancestors. People care for their relatives in the afterlife by visiting at the cemetery, refreshing their tombstones and making offerings of food, incense and joss paper. Once tomb sweeping is complete, join the picnic that your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene arrange for all the relatives, kith and kin.
But tidying up the graves of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong is the most imprtant thing for you to do on November 5. It is a respectful family tradition that goes to the heart of filial piety. Symbolically, a clean and tidy gravesite will remind Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong that you are finally repenting all your failings. They will forgive you and so will your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene.
Brenton, Luca and Valentina are doing the same in Boston.
The family in Boston will be joined by May Fung from Quincy and Dr. Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany.
Yale Guen Mar, do something nice for the ghosts who would like nothing better than to drink your wine, eat your food and smell your incense.
Yalke Guen Mar, if you fail in your filial duties, then ... well ... , you'll reap as you sow.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/JLf6364TWEw
China gotta ban this practice. It pollutes the environment and waste good paper. - People burn paper money on ghost festival to mourn for victims in Yunnan earthquake
* when you shit in taro patches of your Hmong neighbors
* when your diapers leak on Ravinder's sofa and on Rolida Lee's reclining chair
* when you fart in Merced Community Food Market, Yue Cheng Market and Rancho San Miguel Supermarket
* when the tampons inside your asshole leak blood
Yale Guen Mar, take an outing to Tucson, Arizona. Catch a bus to get there. Plan to be in Tucson, AZ on 5th November - your "dad" Tony Chee Mar would have been 102 on 5th November. He was born on November 5, 1915.
Enjoy the nature. Go fly a kite. Wear willow branches on the head. Ride on swings. Such outings not only add joy to life but also promote a healthy body and mind.
Moment of truth for you, Yale Guen Mar. You already have one foot on your grave. There is not much time left for you to redeem yourself.
Yale Guen Mar, it is time to redeem yourself. November 5 is just around the corner. It is 18 days before Thanksgiving. November 5 is just the ideal date for you to honor your ancestors in general and your "dad" Tony Chee Mar in particular..
Travel to Tucson, Arizona. Visit East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) to visit the gravesites of your noble-hearted parents. Tidy up the place. Clear the weeds. Offer flowers and paper money. Burn incenses. Kowtow before the tombstones of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. You'll feel a lot better.
You will also get to meet your relatives at the grave site. Your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene are certain to be there. Brenton will be there with his two kids Luca and Valentina. Silvia will be there to pay respects to the family patriarch. Heck, even May Fung from Quincy, MA and Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany, Italy are planning to be at the gravesite on November 5.
This is a golden opportunity for you to make amends for all your acts of omission and commission. Eugene might finally forgive you to have you as a freiend on Facebook.
I know you can't fly. You have been put on a no-fly list after that fiasco in 2010 when you had to be put on a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.
But you don't need to fly if you wish to go to Tucson. What happened to the minivan that Yuhua Luo gave you to get rid of you from her life? And, anyway, you can always take a bus.
So go for it. I'll be there on Quingming day. It will be an experience for everyone to meet you there finally.
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2017-10-04 14:14:55 UTC
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Yale Guen Mar, on your way to November 5 (Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary), don't forget the Double Nine Festival on October 28. That's the seniors' Day. You have eaned the right to celebrate it by living to be 79.
You can get double the joy at the Double Nine Festival by remembering and honoring your "dad" Tony Chee Mar, your mother Kim Hi Wong and all your other ancestors. Show them respect.
Eat Chongyang cakes and drink chrysanthemum wine.
Best of all, go to Tucson, AZ and visit Lot 49 at East Palm Cemetery. Tend to the tombs of your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar.
Try to bond with your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene by exhibiting filial piety.
Eugene might yet forgive you and accept you as a friend on Facebook.
Yale Guen Mar. You are 79. Unfortunately, your maturity belies your age.

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"...don't ever forget what you owe to your Chinese parents. "
I cussed them out for bringing me into this terrible world.
I cussed them out for being lousy parents.
I cussed them out for being ignorant parents.
I cussed them out for being typical Chinese parents.
I cussed them out for being uneducated parents.
I cussed them out for following Manchu cultured parents....
Yale Guen Mar, your cussing didn't make your parents small any more than it made you great.

Yale Guen Mar, always remember what you owe to your Chinese parents.

Yale Guen Mar, never blame your mother, Kim Hi Wong, and your father, Tony Chee Mar, for all your woes. Act like a grown up. For heaven's sake, you'll be 79 in less than 3 weeks. Act your age. You should make an honest attempt to own up to your deep character flaws before you croak.

Yale Guen Mar, aren't you the black sheep in the family?. KIm Hi Wong always worried about you. That is why she spanked you all the time to keep you in the straight and narrow. No wonder your buttocks were sore all the time when you were growing up.

But Kim Hi Wong's efforts to redeem you never succeeded . She could drag a mule like you to the well, but she couldn't make you drink from the well.

Yale Guen Mar, you will be 79 on February 1. Do you remember how you muddied the San Francisco Bay in 1949 as soon as you got off the boat from Hong Kong?

Yale Guen Mar, try to make a new beginning. Try hard to get over your grudge against your "dad" Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.

Recall what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco. Tony Chee Mar told you, "Yale, you are a turkey".

Tony Chee Mar then added, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey."

Wonder-struck, you had said, "Dad, what is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"

Tony Chee Mar did punish you often, but that was only because he had to and not because it gave him any pleasure. Yale Guen Mar, you were always a pain in the ass. But Tony Chee Mar hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.

Unfortunately, that was not to be. You were simply incorrigible. You just couldn't stay out of mischief. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China for finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made it inevitable that you would never be more than the miserable self you are right now.
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I cussed them out for being lousy parents.
Your mommy, Kim Hi Wong, and your dad, Tony Chee Mar, were good parents and noble souls. Your accomplished siblings Donald Yale Mar, Ellen Heath and Eugene Yale Mar have never failed to acknowledge the contribution of their parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar to their own successes.

Yale Guen Mar, don't be an ingrate. Your plight is your own doing. Tony Chee Mar always did his best to bring you up the right way. It is the height of ingratitude to badmouth Tony Chee Mar for your own failings.
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I cussed them out for being ignorant parents.
The only think they were ignorant of was that they were fighting a losing cause in trying to get an incorrigible rascal like you to grow up into decent human being like their other children Donald, Ellen and Eugene. But one can drag a mule to the well, but it cannot be made to drink from the well unless it wants to.
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I cussed them out for being typical Chinese parents.
What's wrong with being typical Chinese parents?

Donald, Ellen and Eugene grew up to be accomplished, honest upright citizens
So did Homer, Gini, Lawrence, Homer and Clarence.

You are the only black sheep in the family.

There was nothing wrong in the way Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar brought up their kids. It wasn't their fault that they had a kid like you.
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I cussed them out for being uneducated parents.
Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Phoenix, AZ. He let you work in his cafe. He taught you English and mathematics. He taught you the difference between a rational number and an irrational number.

If you failed to get an education, it was your fault, not theirs. Your siblings didn't fail them. Donald, Ellen and Eugene are as honest and upright as they are accomplished.
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I cussed them out for following Manchu cultured parents....
Better to have cultured parents than uncultured parents.

And anyway, you shouldn't grudge the fact that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.

Nor should you grudge Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head.

Tony Chee Mar was a thoughtful father. He didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.

That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.
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Stop it, stupid asshole.
It's none od your business.
Now, stop it.
Yale Guen Mar, ready for Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary? Tony would have been 102 on November 5. Donald, Ellen and Eugene will honor Tony Chee Mar as they always do every November 5. So will Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even May Fung, Roberto and Silvia are planning to join them.
Eugene, Ellen and Donald are throwing a joint party in Tucson, AZ for ghosts of Kim Hi Wong Tony Chee Mar as they do every year.
Yale Guen Mar, you have wasted your life utterly. A fifth generation restaurant worker that you are, you could not hold on to jobs even as a janitor in restaurants.
But don't blame your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar for your plight. They did their level best to keep you afloat and on the straight and narrow. Your failures are the result of character flaws of your very own.
Yale Guen Mar, the least you can do is to pay homage to your parents and all your other ancestors. Coming up is Tony Chee Mar's birth anniversary. He would have been 102 on November 5, 2017.
November is also the 68th anniversary of the first time you met Tony Chee Mar after you sailed into San Francisco from Hong Kong as an 11 year old boy in 1949 after the CCP took control of PRC.
It will be a grand gesture if, in spite of your character flaws, you can get yourself to join your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene to honor and humor the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.
November 5 will be a good time for you to honor the past with a spirit of celebration that includes space for both reflection and renewal.
But most of all, it will be a time for you to bond with Ellen, Donald and Eugene and, perhaps, even with Brenton, Lica and Valentina.
Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet agree to have you as a friend on Facebook.
So, go for it, Yale Guen Mar. Travel to Tucson, AZ. Visit the gravesite of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. It is in Lot 9 of East Palm Cemetery. It will be a wonderful opportunity to reminesce about ancestors with your siblings and other kith and kin. Fly kites or plant seeds to make the occasion a joyous one.
And don't forget to offer the best Mai Tai and the finest in Taishanese cuisine to the ghosts of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong.
But your most visible activity should revolve around tomb sweeping, the ritual cleaning of gravesites to honor a family’s ancestors. People care for their relatives in the afterlife by visiting at the cemetery, refreshing their tombstones and making offerings of food, incense and joss paper. Once tomb sweeping is complete, join the picnic that your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene arrange for all the relatives, kith and kin.
But tidying up the graves of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong is the most imprtant thing for you to do on November 5. It is a respectful family tradition that goes to the heart of filial piety. Symbolically, a clean and tidy gravesite will remind Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong that you are finally repenting all your failings. They will forgive you and so will your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene.
Brenton, Luca and Valentina are doing the same in Boston.
The family in Boston will be joined by May Fung from Quincy and Dr. Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany.
Yale Guen Mar, do something nice for the ghosts who would like nothing better than to drink your wine, eat your food and smell your incense.
Yalke Guen Mar, if you fail in your filial duties, then ... well ... , you'll reap as you sow.
https://groups.google.com/forum/#!topic/soc.culture.china/JLf6364TWEw
China gotta ban this practice. It pollutes the environment and waste good paper. - People burn paper money on ghost festival to mourn for victims in Yunnan earthquake
* when you shit in taro patches of your Hmong neighbors
* when your diapers leak on Ravinder's sofa and on Rolida Lee's reclining chair
* when you fart in Merced Community Food Market, Yue Cheng Market and Rancho San Miguel Supermarket
* when the tampons inside your asshole leak blood
Yale Guen Mar, take an outing to Tucson, Arizona. Catch a bus to get there. Plan to be in Tucson, AZ on 5th November - your "dad" Tony Chee Mar would have been 102 on 5th November. He was born on November 5, 1915.
Enjoy the nature. Go fly a kite. Wear willow branches on the head. Ride on swings. Such outings not only add joy to life but also promote a healthy body and mind.
Moment of truth for you, Yale Guen Mar. You already have one foot on your grave. There is not much time left for you to redeem yourself.
Yale Guen Mar, it is time to redeem yourself. November 5 is just around the corner. It is 18 days before Thanksgiving. November 5 is just the ideal date for you to honor your ancestors in general and your "dad" Tony Chee Mar in particular..
Travel to Tucson, Arizona. Visit East Palm Cemetery (Lot 49) to visit the gravesites of your noble-hearted parents. Tidy up the place. Clear the weeds. Offer flowers and paper money. Burn incenses. Kowtow before the tombstones of Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong. You'll feel a lot better.
You will also get to meet your relatives at the grave site. Your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene are certain to be there. Brenton will be there with his two kids Luca and Valentina. Silvia will be there to pay respects to the family patriarch. Heck, even May Fung from Quincy, MA and Roberto Buonamici from Tuscany, Italy are planning to be at the gravesite on November 5.
This is a golden opportunity for you to make amends for all your acts of omission and commission. Eugene might finally forgive you to have you as a freiend on Facebook.
I know you can't fly. You have been put on a no-fly list after that fiasco in 2010 when you had to be put on a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.
But you don't need to fly if you wish to go to Tucson. What happened to the minivan that Yuhua Luo gave you to get rid of you from her life? And, anyway, you can always take a bus.
So go for it. I'll be there on Quingming day. It will be an experience for everyone to meet you there finally.
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Yale Guen Mar, never forget that Tony Chee Mar brought you up in his home in 914 10th Street in Phoenix, AZ. He let you work in his cafe. He taught you English and mathematics. He taught you the difference between a rational number and an irrational number.

If you failed to get an education, it was your fault, not theirs. Your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene didn't fail them. Donald, Ellen and Eugene are as honest and upright as they are accomplished.

Yale Gien Mar, you shouldn't grudge the fact that Tony Chee Mar cut off your pigtail the moment you landed in San Francisco on the Thanksgiving day of 1949.

Nor should you grudge Tony Chee Mar for refusing to shave a straight line along your head.

Tony Chee Mar was a thoughtful father. He didn't want you to be ridiculed and heckled by your school mates in the new country.

That is why he chopped off your pigtail as soon as you got off the boat in San Francisco. And that is why he shaved off all your hair so that you could grow a normal crew cut and meld with your classmates.

Yale Guen Mar, never blame your mother, Kim Hi Wong, and your father, Tony Chee Mar, for all your woes. Act like a grown up. For heaven's sake, you'll be 79 in less than 3 weeks. Act your age. You should make an honest attempt to own up to your deep character flaws before you croak.

Yale Guen Mar, aren't you the black sheep in the family?. KIm Hi Wong always worried about you. That is why she spanked you all the time to keep you in the straight and narrow. No wonder your buttocks were sore all the time when you were growing up.

But Kim Hi Wong's efforts to redeem you never succeeded . She could drag a mule like you to the well, but she couldn't make you drink from the well.

Yale Guen Mar, you will be 79 on February 1. Do you remember how you muddied the San Francisco Bay in 1949 as soon as you got off the boat from Hong Kong?

Yale Guen Mar, try to make a new beginning. Try hard to get over your grudge against your "dad" Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.

Recall what he told you when you arrived in San Francisco. Tony Chee Mar told you, "Yale, you are a turkey".

Tony Chee Mar then added, "This is Thanksgiving. We are going to have turkey."

Wonder-struck, you had said, "Dad, what is Thanksgiving, what is turkey?"

Tony Chee Mar did punish you often, but that was only because he had to and not because it gave him any pleasure. Yale Guen Mar, you were always a pain in the ass. But Tony Chee Mar hoped his (and Kim Hi Wong's) punishments will help you become a better person.

Unfortunately, that was not to be. You were simply incorrigible. You just couldn't stay out of mischief. This, together with the obsession you had developed as a child in rural China for finger-fucking pigs in their assholes, made it inevitable that you would never be more than the miserable self you are right now.

Your mommy, Kim Hi Wong, and your dad, Tony Chee Mar, were good parents and noble souls. Your accomplished siblings Donald Yale Mar, Ellen Heath and Eugene Yale Mar have never failed to acknowledge the contribution of their parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar to their own successes.

Yale Guen Mar, don't be an ingrate. Your plight is your own doing. Tony Chee Mar always did his best to bring you up the right way. It is the height of ingratitude to badmouth Tony Chee Mar for your own failings.

The only think Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar were ignorant of was that they were fighting a losing cause in trying to get an incorrigible rascal like you to grow up into decent human being like their other children Donald, Ellen and Eugene. One can drag a mule to the well, but it cannot be made to drink from the well unless it wants to.
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On Tuesday, October 15, 2013 at 6:45:07 PM UTC-7, Resty Wyse wrote:

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Today, we can talk about parenting classes.
Backing in the days of the Qing Dynasty (Lets say before the 1940s), many children were never allowed to go to school, or choose NOT to go to school in China like my parents and grandparents, parenting classes were meaningless. Beating and abuse of the their children were the norms of the day. That was the way they grew up. That was the way they treat their children.
As I have pointed out, second generation Chinese-American law professor Army Chua wrote about in her book "Tiger Mom", and she thinks and believes that's the way it should be.
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Yale Guen Mar, your parents wanted you to grow up. If they beat you and punished you, it was only because you wouldn't learn. You were a very bad son.
Yale Guen Mar, your tragedy is that while you no longer remember the Taishanese that your mother had taught you
My mother didn't teach, stupid asshole.
She only knew how to beat and punish.
Are you saying that you never learnt to speak properly in Taishanese because your mother beat you and punished you?

You have it backward man.

She punished you and beat you because you wouldn't learn.
when you were a little boy in mainland China,
you have failed to learn learn English even
after 65 years in the USA.
Yale Guen Mar, Mr. Ravinder Singh's grandkid is
taking a lot of trouble to teach you English.
You wouldn't understand a word he said, stupid asshole.
A bad workman always quarrels with his tools.

Your comprehension skills have always been poor. Your neural network just doesn't work thee way it is supposed to.
The whole family is hard to understand.
Not surprised that you feel inadequate in comparison to the entire household of Mr. Ravinder Singh.

Have you been leaving yellow stains on Ravinder's sofa out of spite.? I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt to say that you were having accidents made worse because you were not getting your diaper changed often enough.
And I know you speak just like them, incomprehensible English.
Have you been eavesdropping ? Or are you just automatically assuming that that since your comprehension skills are so very poor, you wouldn't understand me even if you heard me ?
That is the Indian way, incomprehensible English.
You can learn a lot from Mr. Ravinder Singh's grandkid. It was very generous of him to offer to teacjh you English. Try to make the best of your opportunity.

But decency dictates that before going for your lessons, you ask Meichi Thai to change you into a clean diaper. It has been very inconsiderate of you to leave yellow stains on Ravinder's sofa every time you have visited him.
Many IIT graduated Indians speak incomprehensible English.
Have you ever talked to an IIT graduate? Was that as in your capacity as their waiter at a restaurant? Or was that in your capacity as a janitor in some office facility ?
Was that the reason you got fired from your H1-B job, Satish?
Tell us about the time you got fired by George Gee for pilfering restaurant supplies. Be truthful. Don't make up stories about how George Gee had wanted you to marry his daughter. No father in good conscience can possibly wish for a stupid dishonest man like as his son-in-law.

Gene didn't buy your story when you tried to get back your job at the restuarant after George's death. Neither shall the netizens on this newsgroup.
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2017-10-12 14:39:42 UTC
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Yale Guen Mar, I am very disappointed that you failed to make the journey to Tucson, AZ for the Quing Ming Festival.

Perhaps you failed to come because your caregiver Meichi Thai refused to accompany you to make sure that you are in clean diapers at all times inside the East Palm Cemetery and especially when you are in Lot 49.

Whatever be the reason, you lost a great opportunity to be with your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene and with Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia and May Fung were there.

You would have made a very good impression if you has only bothered to show up. Eugene may have forgiven you enough to accept you as a friend on Facebook.

Are you afraid that taking care of Tony Chee Mar's tomb is such a strenuous job that you don't want to be any part of it? Or is it because you are still sulking since 1949? Why are you giving silly excuses?

Yale Guen Mar, the heavens won't fall if you express your gratitude to Tony Chee Mar who signed papers in 1949 to declare you to be his son even though he had never met you before. Tony Chee Mar did it so that you could flee China after the CCP dictatorship took over. You are blessed that you were able to assume the identity of Tony Chee Mar's son.

Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.

Anyway, this is the 21st century. It is not really necessary to be present in person at the tomb to do the needful at the Quing Ming Festival. Here's hi tech way for virtual mourning.

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-39487437

BBC News
April 4, 2017

Ancient Chinese tomb-sweeping festival goes hi-tech

Millions of ethnic Chinese people will be paying their respects to dead ancestors this week, as they observe the ancient Qing Ming festival.

The centuries-old festival, also known as "tomb sweeping day", is traditionally observed by sprucing up loved ones' graves and making offerings to their spirits.

But in recent years, it has taken on a more hi-tech style for some people.

Virtual mourning

This year, one cemetery in Nanjing in China has rolled out a special service for time-starved mourners, reported Beijing News.

If you can't get to the grave yourself, staff at the Yuhuatai Gongdeyuan cemetery will clean tombs and place bouquets for paying clients, who watch the ritual via a livestream on the Wechat app instead.

Many cemeteries now also operate online memorial pages, where you can pay your respects by burning virtual candles and buying virtual gifts, reports Shanghai Daily.

Some embed QR codes on tombstones - scanning the code with your phone allows you to access interactive memorials featuring photos and videos of your loved ones.

The Changqing cemetery in Beijing has gone one step further by removing the actual grave itself - the deceased is cremated and their ashes put in a biodegradable urn. The family is then given a plaque engraved with a QR code as a sort of virtual grave.

It is the latest space-saving measure in China where authorities have been promoting cremation and other alternatives to traditional burials.

Hiring professional mourners has also become increasingly popular in recent years among those unable to travel home to pay their respects.

But it has attracted an inevitable backlash among traditionalists who see it as insincere.

Going green

Another reason to encourage virtual mourning is that it cuts down on air pollution during the festival, which is officially on 4 April but is observed throughout the week.

The Chinese believe that burning joss sticks, joss paper, and paper offerings - sometimes quite large ones - honours the dead and transmits money and other goods to their loved ones in the afterlife.

In Singapore, one Buddhist temple this year has banned devotees from burning "treasure chests" - large paper boxes containing paper clothes and luxury goods - reports The Straits Times.

Meanwhile in Malaysia - where dengue fever is a concern - some shops are selling biodegradable urns for joss sticks, to replace normal urns which could collect rain water and breed mosquitoes.

Paper chase

Still, that has not stopped some Chinese people from splashing out on extravagant and modern offerings for the dead.

Burning paper versions of luxury clothes, handbags, watches, and gadgets is not uncommon.

One Chinese family in Malaysia this year took it to another level this year when they spent the equivalent of £3,035 ($3,800) on a life-size replica of a yellow Lamborghini.

The paper craftsman told the Sin Chew Daily newspaper that he had received orders for "super bikes, yachts, aeroplanes and bicycles" as well.
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2017-10-17 13:42:23 UTC
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https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/

Yale Guen Mar, we know you are in the no-fly list of all airlines since that fiasco in 2010 when you were put in the cage inside a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.

But you don't need to board a plance to go to Tucson, AZ. You don't even need a ride from Carlton.

There is a direct rain from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. The fare is quite cheap - under $70.

https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/

Yale Guen Mar, take a train trip to Tucson, AZ to be in time by 28th October to be at the East Palm Cemetery in Lot 49 where your parents are buried. Celbrate the Double Nine Festival. Visit Tony Chee Mar's tomb. Tidy it up. Offer food, flowers, paper money and burn incense sticks.

Yale Guen Mar, you'll at once feel a lot better.

Wait in Tucson, AZ for one more week and visit Lot 49 on November 5. It was on this day, 102 years ago that Tony Chee Mar was born. You will also get to meet your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene. Brenton will be there with Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia will fly dowwn from Boston to honor the family patriarch Tony Chee Mar.

Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, your past transgressions will be forgiven. Eugene might actually accept you as a friend on Facebook.

So, Yale Guen Mar, book yourself a train ticket from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. You won't regret your decision.
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Yale Guen Mar, I am very disappointed that you failed to make the journey to Tucson, AZ for the Quing Ming Festival.
Perhaps you failed to come because your caregiver Meichi Thai refused to accompany you to make sure that you are in clean diapers at all times inside the East Palm Cemetery and especially when you are in Lot 49.
Whatever be the reason, you lost a great opportunity to be with your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene and with Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia and May Fung were there.
You would have made a very good impression if you has only bothered to show up. Eugene may have forgiven you enough to accept you as a friend on Facebook.
Are you afraid that taking care of Tony Chee Mar's tomb is such a strenuous job that you don't want to be any part of it? Or is it because you are still sulking since 1949? Why are you giving silly excuses?
Yale Guen Mar, the heavens won't fall if you express your gratitude to Tony Chee Mar who signed papers in 1949 to declare you to be his son even though he had never met you before. Tony Chee Mar did it so that you could flee China after the CCP dictatorship took over. You are blessed that you were able to assume the identity of Tony Chee Mar's son.
Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Anyway, this is the 21st century. It is not really necessary to be present in person at the tomb to do the needful at the Quing Ming Festival. Here's hi tech way for virtual mourning.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-39487437
BBC News
April 4, 2017
Ancient Chinese tomb-sweeping festival goes hi-tech
Millions of ethnic Chinese people will be paying their respects to dead ancestors this week, as they observe the ancient Qing Ming festival.
The centuries-old festival, also known as "tomb sweeping day", is traditionally observed by sprucing up loved ones' graves and making offerings to their spirits.
But in recent years, it has taken on a more hi-tech style for some people.
Virtual mourning
This year, one cemetery in Nanjing in China has rolled out a special service for time-starved mourners, reported Beijing News.
If you can't get to the grave yourself, staff at the Yuhuatai Gongdeyuan cemetery will clean tombs and place bouquets for paying clients, who watch the ritual via a livestream on the Wechat app instead.
Many cemeteries now also operate online memorial pages, where you can pay your respects by burning virtual candles and buying virtual gifts, reports Shanghai Daily.
Some embed QR codes on tombstones - scanning the code with your phone allows you to access interactive memorials featuring photos and videos of your loved ones.
The Changqing cemetery in Beijing has gone one step further by removing the actual grave itself - the deceased is cremated and their ashes put in a biodegradable urn. The family is then given a plaque engraved with a QR code as a sort of virtual grave.
It is the latest space-saving measure in China where authorities have been promoting cremation and other alternatives to traditional burials.
Hiring professional mourners has also become increasingly popular in recent years among those unable to travel home to pay their respects.
But it has attracted an inevitable backlash among traditionalists who see it as insincere.
Going green
Another reason to encourage virtual mourning is that it cuts down on air pollution during the festival, which is officially on 4 April but is observed throughout the week.
The Chinese believe that burning joss sticks, joss paper, and paper offerings - sometimes quite large ones - honours the dead and transmits money and other goods to their loved ones in the afterlife.
In Singapore, one Buddhist temple this year has banned devotees from burning "treasure chests" - large paper boxes containing paper clothes and luxury goods - reports The Straits Times.
Meanwhile in Malaysia - where dengue fever is a concern - some shops are selling biodegradable urns for joss sticks, to replace normal urns which could collect rain water and breed mosquitoes.
Paper chase
Still, that has not stopped some Chinese people from splashing out on extravagant and modern offerings for the dead.
Burning paper versions of luxury clothes, handbags, watches, and gadgets is not uncommon.
One Chinese family in Malaysia this year took it to another level this year when they spent the equivalent of £3,035 ($3,800) on a life-size replica of a yellow Lamborghini.
The paper craftsman told the Sin Chew Daily newspaper that he had received orders for "super bikes, yachts, aeroplanes and bicycles" as well.
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2017-10-19 15:14:52 UTC
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Parents are the worse part of any child's life.
Yale Guen Mar, you are a rank ingrate.

Your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar did their best to guide you to e a useful citizen in your adopted land. But your character flaws always came in the way.

Stop berating your parents. I blame Lim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, not for punishing you often, but for not punishing you often enough.

Get over your unfounded grudges, Yale Guen Mar.

You have never visited the graves of your parents. Do you know where they are?

Take a bus or atrain to Tucson, AZ. Visit the East Palm Cemetery.

Your parents are buried in Lot 49.

Be there on October 28 for the Double Nine Festival. Honor yourself by honoring your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar and all your other ancestors.

Stay back till November 5. That's your dad's birthday. He was born on November 5, 1915.

Clean the tombstones. Tidy up the gravesites.

Offer them Mai Tai and the choicest Taishanese cuisine.

Offer flowers and paper money.

Burn incense.

Do all that and Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet forgive you in spite of all your transgressions. He might even accept you as a friend on Facebook.

So, Yale Guen Mar, go ahead. Buy a ticket to Tucson, AZ and do the needful.

You'll get to meet your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene. This year, Brenton, Luca and Valentina will also be there. So will Silvia, May Fung and Dr. Roberto Buonamici.

Yale Guen Mar, go to Tucson, AZ. Get over your unfounded grudges. Bond with your kith and kin.

That way, you'll get to die a happier man.
https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/
Yale Guen Mar, we know you are in the no-fly list of all airlines since that fiasco in 2010 when you were put in the cage inside a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.
But you don't need to board a plance to go to Tucson, AZ. You don't even need a ride from Carlton.
There is a direct rain from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. The fare is quite cheap - under $70.
https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/
Yale Guen Mar, take a train trip to Tucson, AZ to be in time by 28th October to be at the East Palm Cemetery in Lot 49 where your parents are buried. Celbrate the Double Nine Festival. Visit Tony Chee Mar's tomb. Tidy it up. Offer food, flowers, paper money and burn incense sticks.
Yale Guen Mar, you'll at once feel a lot better.
Wait in Tucson, AZ for one more week and visit Lot 49 on November 5. It was on this day, 102 years ago that Tony Chee Mar was born. You will also get to meet your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene. Brenton will be there with Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia will fly dowwn from Boston to honor the family patriarch Tony Chee Mar.
Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, your past transgressions will be forgiven. Eugene might actually accept you as a friend on Facebook.
So, Yale Guen Mar, book yourself a train ticket from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. You won't regret your decision.
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Yale Guen Mar, I am very disappointed that you failed to make the journey to Tucson, AZ for the Quing Ming Festival.
Perhaps you failed to come because your caregiver Meichi Thai refused to accompany you to make sure that you are in clean diapers at all times inside the East Palm Cemetery and especially when you are in Lot 49.
Whatever be the reason, you lost a great opportunity to be with your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene and with Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia and May Fung were there.
You would have made a very good impression if you has only bothered to show up. Eugene may have forgiven you enough to accept you as a friend on Facebook.
Are you afraid that taking care of Tony Chee Mar's tomb is such a strenuous job that you don't want to be any part of it? Or is it because you are still sulking since 1949? Why are you giving silly excuses?
Yale Guen Mar, the heavens won't fall if you express your gratitude to Tony Chee Mar who signed papers in 1949 to declare you to be his son even though he had never met you before. Tony Chee Mar did it so that you could flee China after the CCP dictatorship took over. You are blessed that you were able to assume the identity of Tony Chee Mar's son.
Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Anyway, this is the 21st century. It is not really necessary to be present in person at the tomb to do the needful at the Quing Ming Festival. Here's hi tech way for virtual mourning.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-39487437
BBC News
April 4, 2017
Ancient Chinese tomb-sweeping festival goes hi-tech
Millions of ethnic Chinese people will be paying their respects to dead ancestors this week, as they observe the ancient Qing Ming festival.
The centuries-old festival, also known as "tomb sweeping day", is traditionally observed by sprucing up loved ones' graves and making offerings to their spirits.
But in recent years, it has taken on a more hi-tech style for some people.
Virtual mourning
This year, one cemetery in Nanjing in China has rolled out a special service for time-starved mourners, reported Beijing News.
If you can't get to the grave yourself, staff at the Yuhuatai Gongdeyuan cemetery will clean tombs and place bouquets for paying clients, who watch the ritual via a livestream on the Wechat app instead.
Many cemeteries now also operate online memorial pages, where you can pay your respects by burning virtual candles and buying virtual gifts, reports Shanghai Daily.
Some embed QR codes on tombstones - scanning the code with your phone allows you to access interactive memorials featuring photos and videos of your loved ones.
The Changqing cemetery in Beijing has gone one step further by removing the actual grave itself - the deceased is cremated and their ashes put in a biodegradable urn. The family is then given a plaque engraved with a QR code as a sort of virtual grave.
It is the latest space-saving measure in China where authorities have been promoting cremation and other alternatives to traditional burials.
Hiring professional mourners has also become increasingly popular in recent years among those unable to travel home to pay their respects.
But it has attracted an inevitable backlash among traditionalists who see it as insincere.
Going green
Another reason to encourage virtual mourning is that it cuts down on air pollution during the festival, which is officially on 4 April but is observed throughout the week.
The Chinese believe that burning joss sticks, joss paper, and paper offerings - sometimes quite large ones - honours the dead and transmits money and other goods to their loved ones in the afterlife.
In Singapore, one Buddhist temple this year has banned devotees from burning "treasure chests" - large paper boxes containing paper clothes and luxury goods - reports The Straits Times.
Meanwhile in Malaysia - where dengue fever is a concern - some shops are selling biodegradable urns for joss sticks, to replace normal urns which could collect rain water and breed mosquitoes.
Paper chase
Still, that has not stopped some Chinese people from splashing out on extravagant and modern offerings for the dead.
Burning paper versions of luxury clothes, handbags, watches, and gadgets is not uncommon.
One Chinese family in Malaysia this year took it to another level this year when they spent the equivalent of £3,035 ($3,800) on a life-size replica of a yellow Lamborghini.
The paper craftsman told the Sin Chew Daily newspaper that he had received orders for "super bikes, yachts, aeroplanes and bicycles" as well.
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2017-10-20 14:14:27 UTC
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Yale Guen Mar, you are 79, going on 80. It is time you pay respect to your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee mar.

Your parents were always very generous. They gave you a room in their house on 914 10th Street in Phoenix, AZ even after you were past your teens.

And how did you pay them back? You didn't visit their graves evn once after nearly twocades of their death. In fact, you were not there even at their funerals.

Ben Shee Mar (Tony Chee Mar's twin brother) and his wife Susan Suey Oy Wong lie buried side by side in Duncanville, TX. Their offsprings Homer, Virginia, Lawrence and Clarence always visit the graves to honor not just the parents but all their other ancestors.

Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong fortunately have offsprings that care. Ellen, Donald and Eugene always visit the graves in Lot 49 of East Palm Cemetery in Tucson, AZ. They clean the tombstones and tidy up the grave sites.

Ellen, Donald and Eugene offer Mai Tai and Taishanese cuisine (that were the favorite of both Tony Chee Mar and Kim Hi Wong). They offer flowers and paper money. They burn incense.

Yale Guen Mar, why don't you ever join Ellen, Donald and Eugene to display your filial piety? That will be one way to bond with them. If you do it right, Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet forget all your past transgressions and accept you as friend on Facebook.
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Parents are the worse part of any child's life.
Yale Guen Mar, you are a rank ingrate.
Your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar did their best to guide you to e a useful citizen in your adopted land. But your character flaws always came in the way.
Stop berating your parents. I blame Lim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar, not for punishing you often, but for not punishing you often enough.
Get over your unfounded grudges, Yale Guen Mar.
You have never visited the graves of your parents. Do you know where they are?
Take a bus or atrain to Tucson, AZ. Visit the East Palm Cemetery.
Your parents are buried in Lot 49.
Be there on October 28 for the Double Nine Festival. Honor yourself by honoring your parents Kim Hi Wong and Tony Chee Mar and all your other ancestors.
Stay back till November 5. That's your dad's birthday. He was born on November 5, 1915.
Clean the tombstones. Tidy up the gravesites.
Offer them Mai Tai and the choicest Taishanese cuisine.
Offer flowers and paper money.
Burn incense.
Do all that and Dr. Eugene Yale Mar might yet forgive you in spite of all your transgressions. He might even accept you as a friend on Facebook.
So, Yale Guen Mar, go ahead. Buy a ticket to Tucson, AZ and do the needful.
You'll get to meet your siblings Ellen, Donald and Eugene. This year, Brenton, Luca and Valentina will also be there. So will Silvia, May Fung and Dr. Roberto Buonamici.
Yale Guen Mar, go to Tucson, AZ. Get over your unfounded grudges. Bond with your kith and kin.
That way, you'll get to die a happier man.
https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/
Yale Guen Mar, we know you are in the no-fly list of all airlines since that fiasco in 2010 when you were put in the cage inside a train to be shipped back from Kansas to Merced, CA.
But you don't need to board a plance to go to Tucson, AZ. You don't even need a ride from Carlton.
There is a direct rain from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. The fare is quite cheap - under $70.
https://www.goticket.io/train/tucson,az/merced,ca/
Yale Guen Mar, take a train trip to Tucson, AZ to be in time by 28th October to be at the East Palm Cemetery in Lot 49 where your parents are buried. Celbrate the Double Nine Festival. Visit Tony Chee Mar's tomb. Tidy it up. Offer food, flowers, paper money and burn incense sticks.
Yale Guen Mar, you'll at once feel a lot better.
Wait in Tucson, AZ for one more week and visit Lot 49 on November 5. It was on this day, 102 years ago that Tony Chee Mar was born. You will also get to meet your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene. Brenton will be there with Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia will fly dowwn from Boston to honor the family patriarch Tony Chee Mar.
Yale Guen Mar, if you play your cards right, your past transgressions will be forgiven. Eugene might actually accept you as a friend on Facebook.
So, Yale Guen Mar, book yourself a train ticket from Merced, CA to Tucson, AZ. You won't regret your decision.
Post by s***@gmail.com
Yale Guen Mar, I am very disappointed that you failed to make the journey to Tucson, AZ for the Quing Ming Festival.
Perhaps you failed to come because your caregiver Meichi Thai refused to accompany you to make sure that you are in clean diapers at all times inside the East Palm Cemetery and especially when you are in Lot 49.
Whatever be the reason, you lost a great opportunity to be with your siblings Donald, Ellen and Eugene and with Brenton, Luca and Valentina. Even Silvia and May Fung were there.
You would have made a very good impression if you has only bothered to show up. Eugene may have forgiven you enough to accept you as a friend on Facebook.
Are you afraid that taking care of Tony Chee Mar's tomb is such a strenuous job that you don't want to be any part of it? Or is it because you are still sulking since 1949? Why are you giving silly excuses?
Yale Guen Mar, the heavens won't fall if you express your gratitude to Tony Chee Mar who signed papers in 1949 to declare you to be his son even though he had never met you before. Tony Chee Mar did it so that you could flee China after the CCP dictatorship took over. You are blessed that you were able to assume the identity of Tony Chee Mar's son.
Yale Guen Mar, you owe Tony Chee Mar everything. Recall that you met Tony Chee Mar for the first time as a 11 year old "Fresh of the Boat" in San Francisco - you had just arrived from Hong Kong in 1949 after the communists took over the country you were born in. Out of the kindness of his heart, Tony Chee Mar (a US citizen) declared that you were his son so that you could be in USA.
Anyway, this is the 21st century. It is not really necessary to be present in person at the tomb to do the needful at the Quing Ming Festival. Here's hi tech way for virtual mourning.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-39487437
BBC News
April 4, 2017
Ancient Chinese tomb-sweeping festival goes hi-tech
Millions of ethnic Chinese people will be paying their respects to dead ancestors this week, as they observe the ancient Qing Ming festival.
The centuries-old festival, also known as "tomb sweeping day", is traditionally observed by sprucing up loved ones' graves and making offerings to their spirits.
But in recent years, it has taken on a more hi-tech style for some people.
Virtual mourning
This year, one cemetery in Nanjing in China has rolled out a special service for time-starved mourners, reported Beijing News.
If you can't get to the grave yourself, staff at the Yuhuatai Gongdeyuan cemetery will clean tombs and place bouquets for paying clients, who watch the ritual via a livestream on the Wechat app instead.
Many cemeteries now also operate online memorial pages, where you can pay your respects by burning virtual candles and buying virtual gifts, reports Shanghai Daily.
Some embed QR codes on tombstones - scanning the code with your phone allows you to access interactive memorials featuring photos and videos of your loved ones.
The Changqing cemetery in Beijing has gone one step further by removing the actual grave itself - the deceased is cremated and their ashes put in a biodegradable urn. The family is then given a plaque engraved with a QR code as a sort of virtual grave.
It is the latest space-saving measure in China where authorities have been promoting cremation and other alternatives to traditional burials.
Hiring professional mourners has also become increasingly popular in recent years among those unable to travel home to pay their respects.
But it has attracted an inevitable backlash among traditionalists who see it as insincere.
Going green
Another reason to encourage virtual mourning is that it cuts down on air pollution during the festival, which is officially on 4 April but is observed throughout the week.
The Chinese believe that burning joss sticks, joss paper, and paper offerings - sometimes quite large ones - honours the dead and transmits money and other goods to their loved ones in the afterlife.
In Singapore, one Buddhist temple this year has banned devotees from burning "treasure chests" - large paper boxes containing paper clothes and luxury goods - reports The Straits Times.
Meanwhile in Malaysia - where dengue fever is a concern - some shops are selling biodegradable urns for joss sticks, to replace normal urns which could collect rain water and breed mosquitoes.
Paper chase
Still, that has not stopped some Chinese people from splashing out on extravagant and modern offerings for the dead.
Burning paper versions of luxury clothes, handbags, watches, and gadgets is not uncommon.
One Chinese family in Malaysia this year took it to another level this year when they spent the equivalent of £3,035 ($3,800) on a life-size replica of a yellow Lamborghini.
The paper craftsman told the Sin Chew Daily newspaper that he had received orders for "super bikes, yachts, aeroplanes and bicycles" as well.
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